Buppie Yuppie Busy-ness!!

It’s cool to be busy, swamped…so busy that you only have a moment here to say this or a few minutes to meet ..it’s cool because it makes you feel important…like you have so much going on…and maybe you do, but those around you shouldn't feel rushed through your conversation, lunch, dinner, basketball game - you get the point.

In the midst of all this busy-ness, you miss quality time with quality people....while you are attempting to connect with the ‘right’ folks, attend the ‘right’ meeting.

Not to mention, when you are always soooo busy, quality people no longer desire to be around you, you give off an anxious, hectic, vibe. Never settled, never comfortable, just running and rushing around all the time….when the truth of the matter is that balanced people find time for friendships, dinners out with family, time to make new acquaintances, and business networks…without saying…"I’ve only got a few minutes", "you know I’m so busy I’ve got to go". No one wants to hang around you because they don’t feel important enough for a slice of your time. A slice where you are relaxed, not looking at your watch or worse ANSWERING YOUR CELL PHONE! My next post will be about cell phone etiquette at lunch, dinner, standing in line at the grocery store! (I am guilty too).

We are all ambitious, driven, high achievers – regardless of age. But what matters is the quality of your relationships, whether business or personal. When you give off that hectic vibe, you are telling the person you are with that time with them does not matter, you’re not focused on what they are talking about or enjoying thier company.

It doesn’t matter if it is a business acquaintance, family member or friend. Everyone wants to feel as if their presence is important when you are around them.

We are all so concerned with being upwardly mobile, on this committee, on that board, going to this meeting, this event, working long hours….some of us bask in it, as if it says "Hey I’m about something, Hey I’m doing something"…..and you are….kudos to you….hard work pays off, being in the know does too….but what do you know about those closest too you …as you zoom here and there….what about new people you meet and you swear ‘we’ve got to get together’? But never do or you try to squeeze them in between this or that - at the last minute to boot. In all this buppie yuppie busy-ness we need to settle down, calm down and enjoy the moment as well as enjoying the people we come across.

True networking is about building genuine relationships, leaving others feeling good after meeting with you...and that's impossible to do when you're too busy.